Too often while growing up or while raising our two boys, I found our family unit, non-communicative because we were all exhausted. We often retreated into our own peace-filled zones, or we were distracted by different activities, and/or we were busy communicating with those outside our family. These choices became our communication habitual dance. Sometimes, these habits of communicating became boring and created a close-minded mindset so that we would assume the thoughts, reactions, and behaviors of those in our families. At times we created unfair labels for each other or predictions of behavior.
How and when did these misconceptions get changed or challenged? When we changed the daily ordinary dance. We would gain a new perspective of each other. For a number of years, we attempted to have family meetings once a week or every couple of weeks. These were a way we could discuss problems and share feelings. Holidays certainly changed our routines, whether they were celebrations at home or traveling. Overall, on a weekly basis, as I mentioned in an earlier blog, even our dinner routines could get stale or boring, with us changing things up with going out for a meal.