12) Above all, have faith.
It’s easy to have faith and optimism when not pelted with problems. It’s really hard to maintain faith and hope when riding the turbulent swells of the addiction storm. Supporting an addict is chaotic. It’s frustrating and, yes, it can trigger your anger. REMEMBER, the lashing out, the chaos, and the deceit does not reflect the loving, soulful core of your dear loved one. You are dealing with the disease. No child says that they want to be an addict when they grow up. Remember, too, this disease is complex and typically stems from trauma.
If you believe in God, a higher power or are spiritual, spend your extra time in prayer and healing meditation. Remember when Jesus was healing, he saw people as whole; he did not see the disease.
Keep hope that the will to live is incredibly strong in most humans and living creatures. Nothing stays static. Life is always changing. After the darkness, there is light.
In conclusion, these twelve insights, along with greater empathy and understanding, have been the gifts of the insidious chronic disease of addiction. It is a complex disease that most think is solved by the simple solution of sobriety. Ironically, although sobriety may appear simple, it requires complex treatments that begin with understanding. In addition, sobriety is achieved with the addict’s unwavering commitment to making caring human connections and effective choices “day by day and moment by moment”. Addicts need our respect, support and love in pursuing recovery.