Reflecting back, what is my advice to parents?
First, take a deep breath, repeat to yourself, “inch by inch”, then wade into reading the research and seeking advice from medical professionals, educators, and other parents. There is no one size fits all and as the saying goes, Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Second, error on the side of abundance (positive, forgiveness, and generosity). Remember that the challenges presented with ADHD can be exhausting and confusing. Take the time to relax, debrief and be in the moment with no expectations. This advice is for both you and your child. Try to forgive and forget, given that ADHD impulsiveness can create chaos and stress. Not sweating the small stuff and focusing on accomplishments and gains helps build confidence and hope.
Third, stay open to different kinds of therapeutic approaches. Remember there is behavioural, medication or a combination of therapeutic approaches. I was a teacher who was resistant to seeing kids medicated. I pretty much ignored any possibility that my children could have had ADHD because they didn’t present with hyper behaviour. Still, in fact, they could have fallen into the inattentive category. I’ve learned that there is no one size that fits all.