I am working my way through the Medical Intuition Course authored by Caroline Myss and Norm Shealy. It’s interesting that I’m finding the time to complete it during a time of year that can elicit both brilliant joyful emotions along and great dark shadowy feelings. My previous blog post was headlined with the following: At this time of year, light and darkness ignite an appreciation for beauty and contrast. Maybe this is the best time to look at the dark side of feelings. This blog will look at guilt.
During the Medical Intuition Course, ** Dr. Norm Shealy, points out that he believes that the biggest obstacles in our ability to heal are our feelings of anger, anxiety, guilt and depression. Certainly, as adults, we not only can recognize these dark feelings but unlike children we are better at being able to articulate the hows and whys we might be experiencing these emotions. When these darker feelings surface within our families over the holidays, it might be a good time to make it a teachable moment with kids.
Guilt, like all the shadow emotions, is very complex. It is often the emotion that hides behind the forced smile, gestures to please, gifts of retribution, sharing out of obligation or even the root of manipulation. So often it can embed itself in self-loathing, shame and a cycle of depression. The worst part is that in families so often guilt is used so freely to control the family interactions (attempts to control and the way people respond). It often is the insidious elephant in the room.